I don't think you should abandon the relationship just because she is lds. Hire out as many household chores as you can afford housekeeping, lawn care etc. I learned to read by reading the Book of Mormon. But the issue of marrying a non-member raises two fundamental problems: That idea seems so contrary to the nature of God. She may have served a mission as an ultimatum to herself. The importance of modesty. I know "Meet the Mormons" isn't what I'm looking for I went through a very similar experience earlier this year and the community was extremely helpful. Mormons can be pretty crazy without it. That I will be expected to be a full time single parent most of the time.
He will eventually have more time for you, but right now he is likely giving you all the time that he can, even though it is very little. All those are reasons to give the church some elbow room but they are not reasons for actually staying. Eventually I hope each wards get to a point where they know that as a ward family our job is simply to make sure that each person, member or non member knows that when they enter the house of the Lord, they are loved. If he weren't a doctor saving lives and had more free time, he could most definitely do YOUR job. Unfortunately, this has led to a culture of Mormon girls who are absolutely obsessed with Disney and even as adults dream of being Disney princesses. She went to BYU and did a 2 year mission, but since she was a girl she got to have a car instead of a bicycle.
I am a military doctor's wife, so in addition to the hideous hours, we have deployments. Notify me of new posts via email. About two years into our marriage, I got sick of waiting in bed for him to come read scriptures with me. Life will chuck all sorts of bouncers at you. Early in our relationship, I gave some thought to the question of whether I would ever be willing to marry a non-Mormon. Second, in my experience mormons have been some of the kindest people I've ever had the privilege to know, and they have not lived up to the cult image you describe. All this actually needs is some stamps, pre-printed envelopes, and a few seconds to dash off a note, kiss the paper, and drop it in a mailbox. Honestly I'd let things keep going. There are so many potential problems they would fill a book.
If you go to mormonthink. In my experience, life-long member, many Mormons have difficulty thinking outside the box, and putting forth effort to inclue and love. It's why TBMs are so bugged by people that leave the church. When my wife and I married, we were very different, but I found all the differences delightful. We are long distance, and it is hard, because when we are together I spend much of time alone waiting for him to come back from the hospital. I feel like I belong to a sisterhood who understand my life.